The most important thing you can do to actualize your ideal future is to take extreme ownership of it.

I’m not talking about forcing everything, or stepping all over people, or doing whatever it takes to get ahead of someone else.

I’m talking about taking responsibility of the fact that where you are right now, in this exact moment in time…

Is a result of all your past choices combined into 1.

Now for some this may be hard to swallow.

“My whole family is overweight it’s in my genes”

“Dude, you don’t know how bad my childhood was”

“I didn’t have much growing up so now when I get money I spend it”

While these examples are extreme and may be true, they all have 1 thing in common, do you see it?

-The Victim Mentality-

One of the most dangerous, self-destructive mentalities one can adopt.

The sick thing is most people don’t even know they have it.

They live in this world where they’re conditioned to blame everything and everyone outside of themselves for their problems.

Now I’m not saying it’s their fault.

Maybe their parents had it and it rubbed off onto them.

Maybe all their friends growing up had this mindset.

Maybe it’s the norm is western society (another topic for another day)

Whatever the case may be, it does nothing to contribute to your own success.

Because the only way we can create our ideal future is by understanding the choices WE make today are carving it out.

It’s not the choices of:

•Others

•Society

• Our teacher’s in school

It’s us.

As scary as this might sound.

It’s mighty powerful.

Think about it for a second.

You have the ability to create any future you want for yourself.

Want to get fit?

Make the choices to:

•Stop eating junk

•Workout 5 days a week

•Get 8 hours of quality sleep

Want to start a business?

•Learn sales

•Study marketing

•Hone a valuable skill

Want to find a partner?

•Groom yourself

•Be friendly and approachable

•Go where single people hang out

See how each of these actions align with the desired future goal?

This isn’t rocket science here.

We all intrinsically know this stuff.

I’m just here to remind you from a different perspective.

Because I’ve done it.

3 years ago I was unemployed, drinking alcohol every day, with no hope or direction.

I was blaming everything or anyone else I could until 1 day you know what I did?

I blamed me.

I owned it.

I sucked it up and said, “What do I do from here?”

Nobody is going to save you.

Nobody is going to feel sorry for you.

Nobody can make this mental switch for you.

So the real question is how do we make this mindset shift?

How do we take full responsibility for our future?

I’m talking extreme ownership here.

Here’s the 5 steps I took to do it:

5 Steps To Defeat A Victim Mentality

1. Accept the fact that where you are at right now is 100% your own doing

Whether it’s good or bad.

Average, great, or down in the dumps.

It’s your fault and all the choices you’ve made up to this point.

This is the first (and most crucial step)

Without doing this you’ll never be able to take full reign over your life. (& future)

2. Sit down and write (yes write) out everything you currently blame something or someone else for

The more detail the better.

Get in depth here.

Think as far back as you can.

You’ll realize you’re still holding on to things you didn’t even know were there.

The goal with this step is to bring awareness to them.

3. Once you have your list, ask yourself honestly what was and wasn’t your fault

The more honest you are the better.

*Remember nobody else is reading this list but you

“I wouldn’t have got in that accident if buddy didn’t cut me off.”

Were you speeding?

Were you looking at your phone?

Were you daydreaming and not paying attention?

The best part of this step is it gives you total clarity.

You’ll realize a lot more things were your fault then you realized.

Here’s the kicker:

If something was truly someone else’s fault or out of your control…

There’s nothing you could of done about it anyways which leads us to step 4.

4. Let it all go

At this point you’ve got all the clarity you need.

It’s time to stop harboring all the old weight.

I’m going to walk you through a quick 10-minute meditation to let go of all this old baggage.

The Meditation:

• Sit down somewhere quiet & comfy with good posture

• Set a 10-minute timer

• Start the timer then close your eyes and put your hands on your lap

• You’re going to breathe in through your nose and into your belly at a slow and steady pace

• Here’s the crucial part: When you exhale, slowly breathe out of your mouth like you’re blowing into a straw.

• While you exhale, your focus is going to be letting go of all your blames, all your excuses, all your resentments.

• With every inhale you bring in new, positive energy.

• With every exhale you let go of all the negative

*Do this mediation daily for the next month to see the best results.

5. Lastly, you’re going to make a plan of action for the next time you catch yourself playing the victim

When you catch yourself doing it, you’re going to ask yourself 3 questions:

1. What does me blaming them/this solve?

2. Is this actually a serious problem?

3. How can I fix this situation?

These questions won’t only highlight how fruitless playing the victim is…

It’ll get you in the habit of seeking solutions.

Which is exactly what successful people do.

They seek solutions, not blame.

Alright there you have it.

A 5-step solution to ridding yourself of the destructive victim mentality.

Quick Recap:

*The most important thing you can do to actualize your ideal future is to take extreme ownership of it.

5 Steps To Defeat A Victim Mentality

1. Accept the fact that where you are at right now is 100% your own doing

2. Sit down and write (yes write) out everything you currently blame something or someone else for

3. Once you have your list, ask yourself honestly what was and wasn’t your fault

4. Let it all go

5. Lastly, you’re going to make a plan of action for the next time you catch yourself playing the victim

I appreciate you taking the time to read my letters every week.

It wouldn’t be the same without you here, so thank you.

Until next week,

Darion.

—

Ps. Have you gotten my free meditation guide?

It’s an in-depth breakdown of:

•The benefits

•5 proven techniques

•A 10 minute guided meditation narrated by me.

It’s yours for free here:

Free Mediation Guide

—

PPS.

I also put together a step by step walk through on how I made my first $100 writing online.

It includes sales call tips and a framework for cold pitching.

It’s an actionable video walk through on how you can do it too.

Get it for free here:

First $100 online